Sounds like you are using profiles. When you switch profiles, seat Setting 1 is always loaded. So in your profile, you should save your seat in Setting 1 and your husband should do the same in his profile. I kinda wish Setting 1 was always mine and Setting 2 was always hers, but selecting profiles will always flip them. We both also use the setting that retracts the seat all the way when exiting the car and I’m much taller than her, so when I get in the car and she used it last, the seat immediately reverts back to her profile seat Setting #1 and starts crunching me. I have to quickly hit the Setting 2 (where I have my seat settings saved in her profile) to stop it, and then switch to my profile where it then defaults to my seat Setting 1. Its confusing!